A secular wedding is a great way to meet the needs of multiple religious perspectives and traditions as they are reflected in the ceremonial proceedings. To integrate your own secular vows as well, here are some great secular wedding vow examples that will help to encourage your own unique vows.
Example #1
I ________, take thee ________, to be my wife/husband/spouse.
To have and to hold,
in sickness and in health,
for richer or for poorer,
and I promise my love to you forevermore
Example #2
I _____, take you ______, to be my wedded wife/husband/spouse. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish ’till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.
Example #3
_____, I take you to be my wife/husband/spouse from this time onward,
to join with you and to share all that is to come, to be your faithful wife/husband/spouse,
to give and to receive, to speak and to listen, to inspire and to respond;
a commitment made in love, kept in faith, and eternally made new.
Whatever lies ahead, good or bad, we will face together. Distance may test us for a time, and time may try us. But if we look to each other first, we will always see a friend. (Name), look to me for all the days to come; today I take my place as your (husband/wife/spouse).
Example #4
I _______, take you _______, to be my wife/husband/spouse.
To share the good times and hard times side by side.
I humbly give you my hand and my heart
as a sanctuary of warmth and peace,
and pledge my faith and love to you.
Just as this circle is without end, my love for you is eternal.
Just as it is made of incorruptible substance,
my commitment to you will never fail. With this ring, I thee wed.
Example #5
Before our friends and those so special to us here,
on this wonderful day of gladness and good fortune, I ______ take
you _______ as my wife/husband/spouse, in friendship and in love,
in strength and weakness,
to share the good times and misfortune, in
achievement and failure, to celebrate life with you forevermore.
Example #6
I (promise/further promise) to love you without reservation, comfort you in times of distress, encourage you to achieve (higher/all of your) goals, laugh with you and cry with you, grow with you in mind and spirit, always be open and honest with you, and cherish you for as long as we both shall live.
Example #7
(Name), I take you to be my lawfully wedded wife/husband/spouse.
Before these witnesses I vow to love you and care for you
as long as we both shall live.
I take you, with all your faults and strengths,
as I offer myself to you
with all my faults and strengths.
I will help you when you need help, and
turn to you when I need help.
I choose you as the person with whom I will spend my life.
Example #8
These things I promise I will do
That life may grant you ample grace
Because I love and cherish you:
I vow to treasure what is true
That I might touch whom I embrace:
These things I promise I will do.
I’ll build a garden in your view
That with sweet fruit will stone replace
Because I love and cherish you.
I vow to love each day anew,
For love must dance through time and space:
These things I promise I will do.
I vow to make your terrors few
And then with you those demons face
Because I love and cherish you.
And now, as we make one of two,
A passage we cannot retrace,
These things I promise I will do
Because I love and cherish you.
Example #9
___, in this beautiful garden I dedicate myself to you. Although our lives may change like the seasons, I will love you. As our love grows like a seed to a beautiful flower, I will love you. When the winds of doubt blow through, I will love you. We will stand together, strong, nurtured by each other’s love until the end.
Example #10
We have come together today to witness the vows that __ and __ are about to make. ___, do you now agree to take __ as your wife, understanding and expecting that she will be your partner for life? Will you love her, support her and help her to achieve her potential? Will you share your love through whatever is to come, until the end of your life?
Here is one beautiful wedding experienced at Duke Mansion in Charlotte, North Carolina.
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